The other day I was having dinner
with my close relations at a resort .It was a special occasion to celebrate the Golden wedding anniversary
of our Uncle and Aunt. Quite close to where we were sitting , a party was
going on in the lawns. It was a
boisterous one and we saw a big banner propped up
on one side . It depicted a huge
heart and a girl jumping out of it. Next to it was another displaying a Mobile
phone number. All around there were balloons and festoons. We could see about
15-20 people .Mostly young girls and a
few young boys. They seemed to be celebrating
some occasion. Speeches were being made
by the girls in turns. It was really distracting us. My cousins who had
arranged the dinner , were a little
annoyed and called the manager to find out whether we could be given
some tables at a distance from the cacophony going on. It was then that I happened to hear one of the speeches. I may
say that it was quite loud and did not
need any eavesdropping to hear it! From the
speech I made out that the party was
being thrown to celebrate the break-up
of a relationship one of the girls ( the
host ) had with a boy , for a couple of years . Needless to state
that the boy in question was not among the guests ! I could hear snippets from the speeches which
derogated the boy who was supposed to have flirted with other girls apart from
the one he was going steady with. The jilted girl
having found that out , decided to
walk out of the relationship although she had “dearly loved him “ till
then. To come out of the “grief “ she
decided to throw a party to let her
friends and well wishers know of the
BREAK UP !
To
say that I was shocked to hear of
the reason for the party , would
be understatement. Where has the world reached ? For a moment I wondered whether I was in India . Yes, we
have to grow with the changing times
–but does that mean we should be so shameless to forget our
culture and give scant respect to the age old values which have
such deep roots in our society.
We have heard about lovers ending their lives in retaliation of the impediments posed by their families , as they could not think of living without each other . We have heard of many a Devdas
who hit the bottle to overcome the pain of separation from their
lovers. But a celebration of a break
up !That really takes the cake . Could
not the girl just talk it out with her lover and call off the relationship if convinced of his guilt ? Was
the party intended to be an open invitation
to peers as she is now
“free “ and “available “ for
anyone interested ? Or is it a public declaration that a break up hardly matters these days as our young people are ready to change partners without
any compunctions whatsoever ? I wondered if a jilted boy would also be throwing such parties !! We
do not expect the present generation to emulate Sita or Savithri, but to be so
brazen about relationships indicates how much rotten the minds of our young generation has become. No
wonder the rates of Divorces have gone
up so much. Values are eroded and
the sanctity of any
relationship or marriage is defiled. A stage has reached when the girls of the present young generation plan
and scheme to “fall in love “
after ensuring that the relationship will ensure them
all goodies .True love and understanding has no place in the relationship and when a relationship sours for whatever reason
, it is celebrated , unlike in the past
when all sorrows would be shared with
only the closest friend or a relation
and washed out by tears. Was it an irony that on this side we were celebrating 50 years of married bliss and on the other side
of the hedge was a celebration of a
break up of a two year “relationship “ ?
